I believe most all of us are people pleasers; there are few exceptions but for the most part, we are all people pleasers. There are those of us who have shut down our hearts so efficiently from continual disappointments that it’s hard to tell anymore, but the truth is a shutdown heart is only from letdown expectations. Most everyone I know including yours truly has someone or persons we like to impress. There is always an inward battle for us to surrender our reputations because we are concerned what others think. Like it or not, it’s the truth about us. This reality spreads from millionaires to paupers; from Kings to Presidents; from pastors to professors and this list continues; we crave positive evaluations! Because of this we are continually under the influence of what others say about us, how they evaluate us; our spouses, parents, children, friends, and co-workers; TV commercials, magazine covers, and inward self-talk. Because of the bombardment of evaluations, we are susceptible to rush down the roads others have mapped out for us. The truth is you do not have to go where others want to take you!
Our account of Job’s life is a flashing neon light that we need to live only in the evaluation of God’s integrity! I read this story of Job and am continuously amazed at the way Job refuses to live under the evaluation of his “religious friends” (even if well meaning) and will only accept a path and definitions unveiled by God. No matter how hard the friends of Job try to have Job enter into their evaluations, he stubbornly waits upon God to speak the truth into his suffering life.
"After the Lord said these things to Job, He said to Eliphaz the Temanite, ”I am angry with you and your two friends because you have not spoken of me what is right, as my servant Job has.”
When we allow others to move us from whom we are in God, we turn on what God says about us as well as turn away from who He says we are! By allowing others to take us where God would not have us go, we place ourselves on a dangerous path. Only God can bring relief to the incomplete hearts of us all.
Only God could bring healing to the questioning heart of Job. Job knew the “people pleasing” evaluations of his friends would only lead him to try a self-fix journey that would end only in a deeper frustration. No, the only place of comfort would come from the sovereign God.
This same foundation of comfort is ours in Christ. When others seek to evaluate us with much more passion for correctness, rather than hearts broken with us in love, we can always know the love of God in Christ who loves us just the way we are. What does it mean for us to speak correctly about God? It means we believe in Jesus. We are heirs to the totality of God’s merciful hand. The correctness we seek is to live not in the evaluation of others, or even our own of ourselves, but only in the evaluation of Jesus, who refers to us as His friends. Therefore, only the judgment of Jesus regarding us will do! Others may give opinions and seek control only Jesus has the power and position to define us as His!
Amanda Williams is a forty-year old wife and mother of two who can still swing her pony tail and display just a tad of sass. She is also a Jesus loving girl who realizes she is nothing without the One who saved her. Amanda has two degrees specializing in serving students with special needs and is currently working in the field of Leadership Development. She is a Christian author, speaker, blogger, and publisher who loves serving beside her husband at her local place of worship, First Baptist Church of Ocala.