MCYFL season (rec football) ended on Saturday. It was a rough few months, with no wins. The boys worked hard and showed amazing determination and effort for the most part. I could not have been more impressed. They are only 12, 13, and 14 years old, after all. They showed up week after week and played ball, with no tangible W to hold onto. And they learned alot about character, integrity, and becoming young men.
Yet, I am worried about them.
As these kids prepare to enter high school and then enter into the world, whether it be college or the work force, I am concerned for them. But not because of them, necessarily.
Every Saturday, my husband and son took the field. They will be the first to tell you they make mistakes, and I will be the first to echo that thought. We believe in owning what is ours and I, along with other parents, wanted a win. You see, it's a game, but not just a game. It's time—time during the week that can never be returned.
So, the investment should be measured in more ways than the score. And for the most part, I think this season payed off in dividends for the majority of the boys.
But—as I walked the sidelines and sat on the bleachers this thought occured to me from a leadership perspective.
Parents: Don't burn bridges that your children may one day need to cross.
Have a care and let them fight the battles on and off the field. Of course, you should be an advocate. But not ones that negate their development and cut off their ability to make mistakes and learn from their mistakes. So many valuable lessons can be learned through conflict. How to handle it, how to process it, how to move forward. You see, you, as a parent, are a coach too. Your team is your child/children. And not just parents—the aunts, uncles, grandparents, and friends that surround each child. Coach them to handle themselves; don't do it for them. Just as my husband can't execute the plays himself from the vantage point of the sideline, you can't do life for your child. Let them practice now.
Amanda Williams is a forty-year old wife and mother of two who can still swing her pony tail and display just a tad of sass. She is also a Jesus loving girl who realizes she is nothing without the One who saved her. Amanda has two degrees specializing in serving students with special needs and is currently working in the field of Leadership Development. She is a Christian author, speaker, blogger, and publisher who loves serving beside her husband at her local place of worship, First Baptist Church of Ocala.