Have you ever asked yourself that question in bewilderment?
A conversation is going well—maybe with your spouse, parent, child, friend—when suddenly, the tone turns from friendly banter to hot spot uncomfortable. A comment delivered with a certain tone, delivery of body language, or emphasis on a certain word turns everything on a dime and all of a sudden you are no longer happily swimming in the shallows, but instead, struggling to tread water in the tumultuous, unpredictable deep waters of relationship.
What. Just. Happened?
Communication happened, albeit unintended, maybe even passive, but you can bet your bottom dollar some utterance or non utterance pricked a sore spot.
Maybe you didn't mean what you said, or maybe the other person didn't. But what's spoken cannot be unspoken, so you're left with the consequences.
You have a choice. Always. You can ignore it and let the moment pass (fester) or you can duke it out and expose what was hidden to the light of understanding and move forward.
I'll let you decipher the better road to travel.
God does have more than a few comments in the form of Scripture to add to your thought process, though:
James 1:19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;
Psalm 141:13 Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth;
keep watch over the door of my lips!
Colossians 4:6 Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
Author's Note: When communicating on social media, proceed with caution. God gave us many ways to communicate: the written words, our voices, tones, facial expressions, and body language. When words are click clacked out on a keyboard, making their staunch statement on a screen, many of the nuances of meaning, emotion, intention are robbed in the process. The bantering back and forth becomes childish because it is incomplete in its expression. So just be careful. I'm talking to my reflection as well.
2 Timothy 2:16 But avoid irreverent babble, for it will lead people into more and more ungodliness,
Amanda Williams is a forty-year old wife and mother of two who can still swing her pony tail and display just a tad of sass. She is also a Jesus loving girl who realizes she is nothing without the One who saved her. Amanda has two degrees specializing in serving students with special needs and is currently working in the field of Leadership Development. She is a Christian author, speaker, blogger, and publisher who loves serving beside her husband at her local place of worship, First Baptist Church of Ocala.